Do You Want to be Right, or Do You Want to be Happy?
Global Glue Project
This video is from our friends at the Global Glue Project and is not included in the Resource Package, but will remain available to view.
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About Global Glue Project
Global Glue Project was founded in January 2011 with the mission to discover the glue that holds couples together. 5+ years later, the team has now filmed over 60 couples across the globe, without any discrimination of race, sexual orientation, or religious affiliation. Couples from the US, China, Denmark, South Korea, India, Japan, Russia, Peru and Romania, candidly share how they met, the obstacles they’ve faced, and the glue that holds them together. These honest accounts give others a roadmap and tools for how to navigate long-term relationships. The founders’ great-grandparents, married for nearly 75 years, inspired Global Glue Project.Witnessing the divorces of friends and family and the changing landscape of relationship, they asked the question, “Does love need a conservation effort?” and the resounding answer has been, “Yes.” That’s why they are dedicated to building an archive of relationship experience and wisdom.
To learn more about their work and see more Global Glue videos, visit their website here.
I am a straight white woman who has been married for 24 years. I too thought about the fact that mostly men spoke and then I realized, what is the message overall? The bottom line is everything they said is true and has been for my husband and I to maintain this relationship. I am assuming, again I am taking responsibility for assuming that any couple, regardless of their sexuality, color of their skin, age, whatever, it they have maintained a loving relationship for any matter of time, they would agree with everything these couples said. My husband and I are both very strong willed individuals, we argue quite a bit, we don’t agree always how to deal with our children and we are certainly very different in personality. I am the extrovert and he is the introvert, however, what I feel was most important from this video is that you must be willing to let go of your ego. You must put the other person over yourself at times and you must try to see their perspective. Blessed Be to all.
Wonderful and real people, just a small sample size of the endless possibilities. The comments that the participants did not reflect a certain “right sampling” kills the messengers and misses the point. Raised in a white, conservative, Catholic and traditional structure, what can I learn from ( my apology if my designation is not currently accurate) straight, gay, trans, Asian, Hispanic, Black, white, men, women, children, homeless, Jewish, Muslims, Protestants, Buddhists, young, old, middle aged, etc, etc, etc,. EVERYTHING
Let me also say thank you rather than criticise the kind of couples you used. Possibly more men spoke because when the man decides to make the marriage work rather than just find someone else if it does not, then the marriage works. I found it all in night full and practical too bad that my marriage failed after 33 years. I trust this will help those still married to be happier and more relevant for each other. Thanks again. Great job!
There were four in a row in which only the man spoke, and in others the woman tended to speak very little. I doubt this is the message this institute truly wants to convey about being happy… Can’t say that I appreciated this, though some of the moments were delightful.
I think that would be a great follow-up, to find longstanding, non-heterosexual couples to interview — but this project isn’t a project of the summit, they’re just letting us in on it. And it’s lovely.
Non-heterosexual couples would have lived somewhat different — and stressed — lives together, and would have some more wisdom to share. And would make me just as teary, i’m sure. It is SO delightful to see the couples from all over. Wow.
I found the videos to be insightful. I also noticed the lack of same sex couples and also interracial couples. These videos showed a subset of the majority of couples perhaps. I think it should have been more inclusive. I think the basics that are addressed apply to all couples, regardless of race, creed, nationality, sexual orientation, etc. I think that same sex couples and interracial couples (I am speaking from anecdotal evidence of friends of family members) face far more challenges than heterosexual couples of the same nationality and race. but so do couples from different socioeconomic and educational backgrounds. When you get down to the basics though, it is the same. It’s just one human being relating to another, and making a commitment to another.
In several videos there was only the man speaking while in the ones where the woman speaks so does the man, too, even if it’s just a couple of words. I interpret this as male-centeredness somehow.
On the other hand, people come from different parts of the world and at the same time, if I remember well, there was not even one homosexual couple interviewed and I find very little inclusiveness or integration that would make it more real for me.
I would ask the Global Glue Project to rethink the info behind the words that is been shown and that uncounciously affects everybody.
They couldn’t put clothes on. Very noisy background. Couldn’t even listen.
Very insightful and filled with alot of good common sense advise on understanding yourself and your partner in a relationship , but also how to make it last in an authentic loving manner. I am very pleased with this summit.
I am absolutely loving this Mindful Relationship summit. I am learning so much for my personal marriage as well as with my couple psychotherapy work. Thank you for organising it and sharing with us your knowledge and experience. All of my love and kindness, Valya