Incompatibility is the Ground For Intimate Partnership
A Dialogue with Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt and Acharya Fleet Maull
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What You’ll Learn:
- Hear a fascinating discussion about the journey of love as a spiritual path
- Learn more about conflict as a component of the path of relationship
- Explore emotional symbiosis 3 phases of love
- Learn why Harville and Helen say “incompatibility is the ground for intimate partnership”

Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph. D are partners in life and work. Their lives and work are integrated in their commitment to the transformation of couples and families and to the evolution of a relational culture that supports universal equality. They have created a variety of resources in order to help couples, families, educators, and therapists strengthen relationship knowledge and skills. They also have 3 New York Times best sellers, Getting the Love You Want, Keeping the Love You Find, and Giving the Love That Heals. Their latest book is Making Marriage Simple (2013), and they have six other books, manuals, and out-of–the-box programs. Helen is also the author of Faith and Feminism, and she was installed in the Women’s Hall of Fame for her leadership in the global women’s movement. Harville is a couple’s therapist with more than 40 years’ experience as an educator, clinical trainer and lecturer whose work has appeared on Oprah 17 times. Helen and Harville have been married for more than 30 years, have six children and six grandchildren, and reside in Dallas, Texas.
To learn more about their work, visit their website here.
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About Acharya Fleet Maull
Fleet Maull is an author, meditation teacher, executive coach and social entrepreneur, working at the intersection of personal and social transformation. Acharya Maull is an empowered senior teacher in both the Shambhala Buddhist and Zen Peacemaker traditions, who leads meditation and bearing witness retreats, activist trainings and prison programs around the world. He founded Prison Mindfulness Institute and Engaged Mindfulness Institute. He is the author of Dharma in Hell and the forthcoming book Radical Responsibility.
To learn more about Fleet Maull visit his website here.
Such a lovely example of engaged partnership. Thank you for sharing your work with clarity and energy. I love the basis as “ruptured connecting”. We can all relate to this condition and extend the same understanding to others.
Blessings.
What a wonderful practice to check in on conversation negativity status each night!
Very insightful. Thank you for presenting your life’s work, for your clarity and encouragement
Thank you so much for these insights. I truly appreciated the parts on emotional symbiosis and safe conversation. The timing could not have been better. Thank you.
Thank you for your wisdom and skills and I especially liked learning how mirroring and curiosity changes the brain…Your website relationships.org is not yet working and comes up as a referral to topics. Will try that another day. Best wishes for continued success and enlightened space between …
Looking forward to practicing your techniques which I’m posting as sticky notes as visual reminders.
With deep appreciation for your vision, commitment, hard work and joint practice of what you teach.
I particularly like the idea of taking turns to be aware of the moments when one’s own and the other’s reactivity and habits bring suffering to the field of relationship.
Thank you Shambala and the Mindfulness summit community and all the interviewers for your skill and metta in putting together this particular topic. It has been great timing for me.
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Thank you so much. It was a very insightfl interview and presentation. I look forward to practicing the wisdom.
Thank u .. most generous !
This is worth practicing practicing practicing to get to the flow of being.
Very clear guidelines and examples.