Day 1: Mindful Relationships

Day 1: Mindful Relationships 2017-05-25T22:40:05-06:00

Building the Foundations of a Healthy Relationship

Dr. Rick Hanson

What You’ll Learn:

  • Learn about the three foundations of healthy relationships supported by both Buddhism and Western Psychology and how to cultivate these principles in your own relationships
  • Learn about our brain’s negativity bias, how it can affect our relationships and how to open to the positive experiences in your life more fully
  • Explore the power of choosing to love especially when it’s not easy

About Dr. Rick Hanson

Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, and New York Times best-selling author. His books are available in 26 languages and include Hardwiring Happiness, Buddha’s Brain, Just One Thing, and Mother Nurture. He edits the Wise Brain Bulletin and has numerous audio programs. A summa cum laude graduate of UCLA and founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom, he’s been an invited speaker at NASA, Oxford, Stanford, Harvard, and other major universities, and taught in meditation centers worldwide. His work has been featured on the BBC, CBS, and NPR, and he offers the free Just One Thing newsletter with over 120,000 subscribers, plus the online Foundations of Well-Being program in positive neuroplasticity that anyone with financial need can do for free.

To learn more about Dr. Rick Hanson check out his personal website as well as The Foundations of Well Being to explore how to shape your brain for lasting well-being.

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  1. Char May 21, 2017 at 8:16 am - Reply

    I find myself thinking about this talk days after viewing it. Even found myself talking about it with friends and relatives. Thank you so much! Gracious gifts occur for me like more of a choice than an obligation–wonderful!

  2. Kim May 19, 2017 at 7:30 pm - Reply


    I don’t understand why the videos for Day 1 are not available anymore? First they started late because of a networking crash and then they are supposed to be available for 48hrs. Thank you for clarifying.


  3. Carlyn May 19, 2017 at 1:07 pm - Reply

    Very helpful, clear overview and ‘instruction’,
    Thank you?

  4. Kristina May 19, 2017 at 10:00 am - Reply

    This should be taught at school already from the first class! Love the reminder about “the zoo”!

  5. Keira May 19, 2017 at 7:42 am - Reply

    Fabulous talk. It hit home on so many levels. Such a liberating feeling (and relief!) to make sense of these emotions and vulnerabilities and give myself some credit for my behaviour rather than a beating for perceived emotional immaturity.

  6. TurtleWoman May 19, 2017 at 7:18 am - Reply

    Rick, you are a breath of fresh air. As I listen to you, the world becomes a softer more loving place. Your personal story helps me to connect with how we can heal and flourish regardless of a difficult beginning. Keep on keeping on! Green light! Green light!

  7. Nayeli May 18, 2017 at 8:43 pm - Reply

    Wonderful Talk Rick. Thank you so much again for your wisdom, but above all your open heart and willingness. I consider you my teacher since Buddha´s brain to foundations of well being, I enjoy reading and listening to what you share. I am stunned with gratitude with what you bring to me and to the world

  8. Linda May 18, 2017 at 2:42 pm - Reply

    I love Rick, in the broadest sense of the word; always receive so much from his presentations.

  9. Toni May 18, 2017 at 10:18 am - Reply

    Thank you, Dr. Hanson. I love watching your speak and learn so much from your insight and wisdom. I feel grateful. Excited to share this with my partner.

  10. Rita Moya May 18, 2017 at 9:56 am - Reply

    A particularly mindful business acquaintance, whom I admired as a gentle leader, spoke profound words about his newlywed status:
    “The most significant change for me in marriage is always keeping my spouse in mind.”
    Through Dr. Hanson’s presentation I would now add to that statement; “..while staying fully present with my ‘self’.
    Thank you, doc.

    • Deborah W May 19, 2017 at 1:37 pm - Reply

      So true. We must be mindful of both peeps in the relationship. Thanks for sharing.

  11. Jessica May 18, 2017 at 9:49 am - Reply

    Absolutely wonderful talk! Thank you!!

  12. Lisa May 18, 2017 at 9:28 am - Reply

    Thank you for the teachings, Rick.

    And to the organizers and interviewers.

    Many bows and much gratitude to you all. -/lisa

  13. Lokken Liane May 18, 2017 at 9:27 am - Reply

    Wonderful talk on relationships. It was good to be reminded of all the ways our ancient amygdala brain can sabotage our intimate relationships.

    He quoted the great mystical Christian, Fr. Thomas Keating, saying something like that a life lived without contemplation is a recipe for disaster. Obviously, the very scientific Dr. Hanson brings together science and true mindfulness in a beautiful way. What a gift to the world!!

    My only critique- Why was there no eye contact with him? Seems antithetical to the subject discussed.

  14. Esther Salomon May 18, 2017 at 8:46 am - Reply

    thanks for the opportunity to listen a wise man
    I appreciate it very much and hope to honor this privilege by really practicing his teaching

  15. Rachel Forsyth May 18, 2017 at 8:46 am - Reply

    I really appreciate the WAY Dr Rick Hanson speaks in a gentle and confident manner. I devoured every insight with deep gratitude. I feel a kinship with his soulful message. Thank you Dr Rick Hanson. ?

  16. stephanie parrell May 18, 2017 at 7:57 am - Reply

    I really enjoyed this intro. I gained a lot of meaningful insight from this. Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful knowledge for free. 🙂

  17. Sarah May 18, 2017 at 7:22 am - Reply

    Comprehensive and clear and very helpful. Rick knows his stuff and communicates it well. Grateful for this.

  18. Leah May 18, 2017 at 7:13 am - Reply

    This was great. I tried to share it on Facebook and it posted as some annoying cartoon video. Too bad. I would have liked to share the original content and promote the summit. Hope the glitch regarding the link can be fixed!

  19. Mirjana Kacl May 18, 2017 at 6:43 am - Reply

    Very nice and profound explanation. Thank you Dr. Hanson !

  20. Trish May 18, 2017 at 5:45 am - Reply

    This was a great talk!!! I enjoyed stopping, taking the time to listen and hear things that will help me in my relationships. Thank you

  21. Michael GRIFFITH May 18, 2017 at 5:06 am - Reply

    If we could get this wisdom to a large number of people in the global village it would change the world for the better. I think it must be the responsibility of all of us who have glimpsed these truths to do whatever we can to spread them as widely as possible

    MICHAEL GRIFFITH, Dublin Ireland.

    • Deborah W May 19, 2017 at 1:40 pm - Reply

      Agree. We are truly blessed to have been exposed to the expertise of this man. I am trying to share his Taking in the good practice with my friends. It has changed my life and is starting to rewrite my brain.

  22. Maggie Gruen May 18, 2017 at 4:55 am - Reply

    Lots of good advice. Thank you. The three foundations for a good relationships was enlightening. Using the examples Rick put forth I feel somewhat empowered to give it a go.

  23. Rani May 18, 2017 at 4:35 am - Reply

    Thank you. Very practical and down to earth advice. I enjoyed the warmth and calm of your talk.

  24. Sissy Martens May 18, 2017 at 3:38 am - Reply

    thank you very much for this helpful input!

  25. Sylvie jacobs May 18, 2017 at 3:29 am - Reply

    Brought clearly together intimacy and dependency, and the benefit of awareness within these.

  26. Aline May 18, 2017 at 3:28 am - Reply

    I just love Rick Hanson! What he says is so real, so practical, so useful for day-to-day-life. And it’s inbedded in a lively spirituality. Thank you!

  27. Anne Aubuen May 18, 2017 at 3:24 am - Reply

    Excellent content – multifaceted with functionality – a bit to rapid fire
    It leaves me wanting more.

  28. Michael Bauman May 18, 2017 at 12:18 am - Reply

    Blessing on this offering, I wish it would all stick like velco?. I only listened to Rick tonight and he as always was amazing. Deep heart mind soul touching advice and insight to making my life work toward my awakening as a human being.

    I wish I could ask just one relationship question.

    in love, thank you,

    michael grace bauman

  29. christine engel May 18, 2017 at 12:04 am - Reply

    mind stopping – heart opening – Dr Hansen sheds lights on all my circuits! I especially appreciate his reference to ghosts of generations past. I have always held a positive sense of Ancestors around me and learned to stop expressing such as it resulted in me being seen as ‘crazy’. I just turned 69 and each time I listen to folk researching the brain, gut, heart combinations I am grateful to acknowledge myself as always been partially ‘awake’…I now plan to focus on moving to be fully awake/alert for the rest of my time on earth! Especially appreciate information on intimacy and autonomy! and 20 / 80 ration of observation! thank you for today which I embrace with gratitude!

  30. Johann Bernhard Dueren May 17, 2017 at 11:50 pm - Reply

    Felt like systemically summoned to attend class as it should be taught in all schools.

  31. Donna May 17, 2017 at 11:24 pm - Reply

    Lovely guy. Fantastic information!
    Thanks ???

  32. Diane Foster May 17, 2017 at 10:30 pm - Reply

    Wonderful. As always, I love Rick’s practicality as well as his wisdom, and enjoy the fact that this was filmed outdoors in Marin County—Thanks for this!

  33. Emily May 17, 2017 at 10:23 pm - Reply

    This video by Rick Hansen was very timely for me. I was able to see how easy it is to get caught up in a past negative event in a relationship and forgive myself for this negativity bias. I was able to understand this as part of how the brain works and to see that deliberately focusing on the positive aspects of the relationship and my own loving feelings is the best path forward rather than rehashing old wounds

  34. shalin kacheria May 17, 2017 at 10:11 pm - Reply

    Very insightful.

  35. Kalua Rhody May 17, 2017 at 10:03 pm - Reply

    So rich! Jam-packed with gems. Willl want to watch this again…some takeaways:
    Love the concept of the menagerie within; liked the three main elements of a healthy relationship: 1) virtue (don’t be a jerk; take responsibility for your stuff; have integrity) 2) benevolence (be kind and have good will for others) and 3) engagement (repair is critical, know your partner, be generous)
    I love Esther Perel’s work which also explores the dialectic between autonomy/independence and connection/relatedness, and liked the way Rick conceptualizes this dialectic as two wings of one bird.
    Thank you so much for this interview!

  36. Luis May 17, 2017 at 9:30 pm - Reply

    Thanks, Dr. Hanson, for sharing your wisdom and experiences with us. It was an extraordinary moment being watching your interview and the tips you gave us in order to have a more conscious life. Very nice topic, the related about the bases of a healthy relationship: Virtue, Benevolence, and Engagement, pretty important to keep them in count. Thanks a lot.

  37. Marilyn May 17, 2017 at 9:18 pm - Reply

    You’ve given me a lot to think about and practice. I love the compassion and understanding for your listener that permeates everything you say and the wisdom you’ve shared so clearly is invaluable. Thank you!

  38. Phillip Brewster May 17, 2017 at 9:09 pm - Reply

    As one to grow up in a positive world and yet to feel so unworthy and to grow from there

  39. Pearl Dinkelacker May 17, 2017 at 8:52 pm - Reply

    I always learn so much every time I read or listen to you Dr Rick Hanson.
    Thank you for a reminder of life’s ease! Pearl Dinkelacker

  40. Roseann Cervelli May 17, 2017 at 8:47 pm - Reply

    Amazing Work. Rick’s words just flow like a peaceful river of insight and understanding. I am so grateful that I have listened to this session on Healthy Relationships and will use the information personally and professionally.
    Thank you…A gratitude moment.

  41. Patty May 17, 2017 at 8:41 pm - Reply

    I’m a big Rick Hanson fan, and thoroughly enjoyed this talk.

    Question — Are transcripts available for each video?

  42. carol anna mcbride May 17, 2017 at 8:03 pm - Reply

    Excellent first talk! Covers a lot of terrain with clarity and compassion, esp. the elements around relationship in the final section.

  43. carol anna mcbride May 17, 2017 at 8:00 pm - Reply

    Powerful and excellent opening talk.

  44. Debra May 17, 2017 at 7:55 pm - Reply

    Liked the 20/80 idea and remembering to apply mindfulness when triggered.

  45. Tom Ratkay May 17, 2017 at 7:44 pm - Reply

    Well, I need just one word to describe this video…Extraordinary!

  46. Jessica May 17, 2017 at 7:37 pm - Reply

    A short but completely stand-alone course in how to be a contented adult who can gracefully, mindfully, and compassionately balance their own needs with those of others. Wonderful! I’ll listen again and again and share this widely – but I promise: only with people who are interested 😉

  47. Joanne Moy May 17, 2017 at 7:25 pm - Reply

    Great information, very succinct, clear and backed up with examples. Quite useful with all of our relationships!

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  49. Livier May 17, 2017 at 7:23 pm - Reply

    I’m so grateful for the advice.
    Namaste ??

  50. Trish May 17, 2017 at 7:06 pm - Reply

    My take away: ‘Neurons that fire together wire together’ …we are able to break the circuit of habitual reaction when someone or somebody upsets us. To quote Dr Rick;… ‘ it’s important to go mindful to what is occuring and holding that negative emotion/feeling in a space of ‘untroubled awareness’, “the nature of awareness being ; it itself is neither tainted or harmed by what it represents”… when you do that you stop the reinforcing of the negative reaction ..a circuit breaker’

  51. Sandy Hillyer May 17, 2017 at 6:54 pm - Reply

    So helpful. Will order cd & listen repeatedly. Thank again.

  52. Ryan May 17, 2017 at 6:44 pm - Reply

    “If you’re not stunned by gratitude, you’re not paying attention” 🙂 Love the awe inspiring evolutionary perspective from Rick!

  53. hossjulia May 17, 2017 at 6:25 pm - Reply

    Will there be transcripts? I can’t stand watching people talk on video or tv. Much rather just read it.

    • hossjulia May 17, 2017 at 6:33 pm - Reply

      My bad, I just turned the phone over and am listening.

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